What I Know for Sure by Oprah Winfrey

Re-Re Book

(Book Review and Resume)

What book I've read?

What statement I highlighted?

What the lesson I learned from the book?

Here I write down that all.

So, sebenarnya aku udah punya buku ini sejak awal tahun atau akhir tahun lalu, karena dia ada di deretan buku-buku Most Popular bareng biografi dan memoir tokoh-tokoh besar seperti Obama, Steve Jobs, dll. Bareng buku-buku hits Yuval juga. Tapi belum dibaca-baca. Mulai tertarik baca setelah Suhay membahas ini di Top 5 Books-nya.

Aku menyelesaikan buku ini dalam waktu kurang lebih 20 jam. Buku ini membuat aku yang mau ngerjain pekerjaan rumah berpikir, "Bentar, satu halaman lagi." atau "Tanggung, satu chapter lagi."

Aku suka buku ini. Hampir seluruh statement yang tertulis quotable banget. Well, this is what you can expect from Oprah, right?

Aku bukan penggemarnya seperti Suhay, tapi aku pun kenal dia sejak kecil, sejak Oprah Show. I know for sure that she's a smart, an inspiring woman. Buku ini bercerita mengenai hal-hal yang dipelajari sepanjang hidupnya. Baik dari tamu-tamu yang datang ke Oprah Show, dari teman-temannya, dari buku yang dibacanya, atau dari peristiwa-peristiwa yang dialaminya. Insight-insight hidup yang dia miliki dan kemudian ia gunakan dalam kesehariannya.

Menarik sekali, karena ada banyak hal dari nilai-nilai dia yang sejalan dengan pemahaman psikologi positif, humanistik, konsep mindfulness, self-love, dan lainnya. 

Coba aku bahas beberapa statement-nya yang aku highlight dan aku sukaaaa banget. Well, sebenarnya aku suka semua kalimat dibukunya. Literally semuanya! Wkwk...

It has become the central question of my life: At the end of the day, what exactly do I know for sure?

I instantly remembered wracking my brain and searching my soul, sitting up late and waking up early, all to figure out what I've come to understand about the things that matter in life, things like joy, resilience, awe, connection, gratitude, and possibility.

You live, and if you're open to world, you learn.

You have the choice this very moment - the only moment you have for certain. I hope you aren't so wrapped up in nonessential stuff that you forget to really enjoy yourself - because this moment is about to be over.

I take my pleasures seriously. I work hard and play well; I believe in the yin and yang of life. It doesn't take a lot to make me happy because I find satisfaction in so much of what I do.

What I know for sure is that pleasure is energy reciprocated: What you put out comes back. Your base level of pleasure is determined by how you view your whole life.

Life is full of delightful treasures, if we take a moment to appreciate them. I call them ahhh moments, and I've learned how to create them for myself.

Di sini Oprah membahas mengenai pencarian jati diri, mengenai hidup untuk saat ini, here and now, untuk menikmati setiap momen, sekecil apapun itu, kemudian mensyukurinya. Oprah juga membahas mengenai kesimbangan yin dan yang, tentang bekerja keras namun tidak melupakan self-reward. Tidak perlu berlebihan. Cukup dengan kau merasakan dirimu yang sesungguhnya, menikmati hobi kecil, dan bersama orang-orang tersayang. Ini tuh mengingatkanku pada teori leisure dan ikigai dalam psikologi. Coba deh teman-teman baca, what she talked and practiced, that is exactly the theory which came alive. Entah Oprah membaca kemudian mempraktikkan teori ini - well, karena rahasia umum, dia book nerd - tapi aku merasa relatable banget dengan semua yang dia bahas di buku ini.

Tentang karma? Apa yang kamu tanam, itu yang kamu tuai. Ia berkali-kali menyebutkan tentang lakukan kebaikan, maka pada akhirnya kebaikan tersebut akan berbalik menghangatkan harimu.

Belajar dapat dilakukan di mana saja, kapan saja, dan dari siapa saja. Tergantung pada kita, cukup open mind or not kah?

Isn't that something. I would have gone to the trouble for friend but not for myself. For sure I need to practice what I preach and value myself more.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. And remember Newton's third law of motion: For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. The energy you create and release into the world will be reciprocated on all levels. Our main job in life is to align with the energy that is the source of all energies, and to keep out frequency tuned to the energy of love. This I know for sure.

That, for sure, is an aspiration worth holding: to not just appreciate the poetry, but to be the poem.

When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it. My goal: to stay open to all the universe has to offer.

It;s the airplane oxygenmask theory: If you don't put on your mask first, you won't be able to save anyone else.

I know for sure that you can't give what you don't have. If you allow yourself to be depleted to the point where your emotional and spiritual tank is empty and you're running of fumes of habit, everybody loses. Especially you.

Kadang kita melakukan banyak hal untuk orang-orang tersayang kita, untuk lingkungan kita. Tapi seringkali pula, kita lupa untuk melakukan hal-hal baik pada diri kita sendiri. Ya ngga sih?

Memang benar, kita melakukan kebaikan dengan hukum alam bahwa kebaikan itu akan kembali kepada kita. Akan tetapi, tak ada yang tau kapan pengembaliannya kan? So, why don't we pay for ourself first? Puji dirimu sendiri. Elus kepalamu sendiri. Ciumi tubuhmu sendiri. Hargai dirimu. Maka itu adalah kebaikan yang kau lakukan untuk dirimu. Dan itu adalah sebuah anugerah.

Teori masker oksigen di pesawat? Tolonglah dirimu sendiri terlebih dahulu, karena kalau kamu terluka atau tidak bahagia, bagaimana mungkin kamu akan menolong dan membahagiakan orang lain?

Katanya lagi, jangan hanya sekadar mengapresiasi sebuah puisi yang bagus, tapi jadilah puisi itu sendiri. 

Lalu, kalimat terakhir Oprah, serupa dengan prinsip yang aku percaya sejak zaman sekolah menengah. Pikiran itu magnet. Apa yang kita pikirkan di-aamiin-kan oleh malaikat, didukung semesta, dikabulkan oleh Yang Maha Esa. Karena itulah pikirkan yang baik-baik saja.

The gift of deciding to face your mortality without turning away or flinching is the gift of recognizing that because you will die, you must live now. Whether you flounder or flourish is always in your hands - you are the single biggest influence in your life.

Your journey begins with a choice to get up, step out, and love fully.

Di sini Oprah membahas bagaimana banyak di antara kita yang menolak menua. Takut menjadi tidak menarik, tidak kuat, tidak seaktif sewaktu muda. Padahal ada banyak manusia lain yang tak berkesempatan merasakan usia panjang yang kita rasakan. Padahal ada banyak pembelajaran hidup yang bisa kita syukuri, alih-alih mengeluh mengenai angka yang bertambah besarannya. Maka sudah seharusnya kita mensyukuri momen ulang tahun kita, bukan menghindarinya.

Kalimat selanjutnya secara definisi langsung jelas berarti bahwa pilihan kita lah untuk bangkit, melangkah menghadapi setiap tantangan yang datang. Tapi buatku pribadi, berkaitan dengan kalimat sebelumnya, ada petuah guru SMA-ku, "Tua itu pasti, dewasa itu pilihan." Artinya bahwa angka usia jelas bertambah, tak berarti kebijaksanaan dan hikmah hidup selalu menyertai. Menjadi pilihan kitalah untuk dewasa dalam menghadapi dunia. Ya kan?

Insight, information, knowledge, inspiration, power: All that and more can come through a good book.

Books, for me, used to be a way to escape. I now consider reading a good book a sacred indulgence, a chance to be any place I choose. It is my absolute favorite way to spend time. What I know for sure is that reading opens you up. It exposes you and gives you access to anything your mind can hold. What I love most about reading: It gives you the ability to reach higher ground. And keep climbing.

Buku adalah jendela dunia. Kalimat ini jelas akrab di telinga kita. Dan Oprah menjelaskan dengan elegan. Betapa buku memberikan tidak hanya pengetahuan, tapi juga kekuatan. Kekuatan untuk mengubah dunia, mengubah diri sendiri menjadi versi yang lebih baik lagi.

Everything else will take care of itself - this I know for sure. And my number-one spiritual practice is trying to live in the present moment ... to resist projecting into future, or lamenting past mistakes ... to feel the real power of now. That is the secret to joyful life.

Delight in the Lord - in goodness, kindness, compassion, love - and see what happens.

We are not human being having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience. To make that experience as purposeful and poetic as possible is my heart's single greatest desire for sure.

Aku ngga tahu kalau Oprah adalah orang yang sebegitu meyakini keberadaan dan kekuatan Tuhan. Bahwa bagaimanapun hidup kita adalah pilihan baik untuk menyerahkan segalanya pada-Nya. Tentu setelah berusaha sebaik-baiknya. Bahwa kita adalah makhluk spritual yang diberikan kesempatan oleh Tuhan untuk menjadi manusia. Ugh...aku suka banget sih ini 😍

Like me, you might have experienced things that caused you to deem yourself unworthy. I know for sure that healing the wounds of the past is one of the biggest and most worthwhile challenges of life. It's important to know when and how you were programmed, so you can change the program. And doing so is your responsibility, no one else's. There is one irrefutable law of the universe: We are each responsible for our own life.

If you're holding anyone else accountable for your happiness, you're wasting your time.

All these experiences are your life's way of urging you to leave the past behind and make yourself whole. Pay attention. Every choice gives you a chance to pave your own road. Keep moving. Full speed ahead.

There's a wealth that has nothing to do with dollars, that comes from the perspective and wisdom of paying attention to your life. It has everything to teach you. And what I know for sure is that the joy of learning well is the greatest reward.

Sometimes, kita merasa diri ngga berharga. Membandingkan diri dengan orang lain. Kita menyakiti diri sendiri. Oprah lagi-lagi membahas teori psikologi mengenai self. Sebuah teori yang tak ada habisnya untuk dibahas. Bahwa kebahagiaan kita adalah tanggung jawab kita. Bahwa bagaimanapun dunia memperlakukan kita, pilihan kita lah untuk menyikapi dengan cara yang seperti apa.

Kita ngga bisa bergantung dengan orang lain untuk membahagiakan kita. Hal ini karena yang paling tahu mengenai perasaan kita, mimpi kita, hal yang kita inginkan, hal yang tidak sesuai nilai kita, adalah diri kita sendiri. Jadi...Oprah mengajarkan kita untuk menjadi sutradara atas drama hidup kita sendiri.

Selain itu, ada banyak hal berharga di dunia ini. Bahwa kekayaan tak selamanya diukur dengan uang. Kebijaksanaan, kesempatan untuk selalu belajar, menikmati hidup, bersama orang-orang tersayang, juga merupakan kekayaan yang seharusnya kita syukuri, kita hargai.

What I know for sure is that the only way to endure the quake is to adjust your stance. You can't avoid the daily tremors. They come with being alive. But I believe these experiences are gifts that force us to step to the right or left in search of a new center of gravity. Don't fight them. Let them help you adjust your footing.

So when life gets difficult, I've found that the best thing to do is ask myself a simple question: What is this here to teach me?

Wherever you are in your journey, I hope you, too, will keep encountering challenges. It is a blessing to be able to survive them, to be able to keep putting one foot in front of the other - to be in a position to make the climb up life's mountain, knowing that the summit still lies ahead. And every experience is a valuable teacher.

I know for sure that all of our hurdles have meaning. And being open to learning from those challenges is the difference between succeeding and getting stuck.

Anything can be a miracle, a blessing, an opportunity if you choose to see it that way.

When you can see obstacles for what they are, you never lose faith in the path it takes to get you where you want to go. Because this I know for sure: Who you're meant to be evolves from where you are right now. So learning to appreciate your lessons, mistakes, and setbacks as stepping-stones to the future is a clear sign you're moving in the right direction.

Sometimes we get so focused on the difficult of our climb that we lose sight of being grateful for simply having a mountain to climb.

I know for sure that appreciating whatever shows up for you in life changes your whole world. You radiate and generate more goodness for yourself when you're aware of all you have and not focusing on your have-nots.

I continued to believe that no matter how hard the climb, there is always a way to let in a sliver of light to illuminate the path forward.

Kali ini, Oprah mengajak kita untuk sepenuhnya paham bahwa hidup menyajikan banyak sekali pilihan menu. Ada kebahagiaan, kesulitan, tawa, tangis, kekecewaan, kebanggaan, dsb. Tidak banyak yang bisa kita lakukan selain selalu menyesuaikan diri dengan segala tantangan yang ada. Kemudian, keberadaan kita saat ini saja adalah suatu bukti bahwa kita telah berhasil melewati tantangan-tantangan sebelumnya. Maka bukanlah alasan untuk menjadi takut dengan tantangan berikutnya.

Selain itu, Oprah juga menjelaskan bahwa semua hal yang terjadi di dunia memiliki alasan. Berlaku pula dengan tantangan yang kita hadapi ini. Tugas kita adalah menghadapinya dan mencari tahu, insight apa yangs sedang diajarkan hidup pada kita.

Seringkali kita terlalu fokus dengan masalah yang kita hadapi, padahal dengan adanya masalah untuk dihadapi adalah bukti bahwa kita masih hidup, dan hidup masih memiliki banyak hal yang ditawarkan pada kita. So, face it. Syukuri yang ada di sekeliling kita. Kalau kata Dombledore, "But you know, happiness can be found even in the darkest of times, when only remembers to turn on the light."

What I know for sure is that a lack of intimacy is not distance from someone else; it is disregard for yourself. It's true that we all need the kind of relationship that enrich and sustain us. But it's also true that if you're looking for someone to heal and complete you - to shush that voice inside you that has always whispered You're not worth anything - you are wasting your time.

What I know for sure is that everything happens for a reason. I've always known that life is better when you share it. But I now realize it gets even sweeter when you expand the circle.

If you find it a strain to open your heart full-throttle to the Big L, start in first gear: Show compassion, and before long you'll feel yourself shifting to something deeper. Soon, you'll be able to offer others the blessings of understanding, empathy, caring, and - I know for sure - love.

To know that people care about how you're doing when the doing isn't so good - that's what love is. I feel blessed to know this for sure.

Yang udah menikah, yang punya pacar, yang jomblo. Oprah di sini memberikan nasihat yang bagus banget. Bahwa keintiman, cinta, adalah suatu hubungan yang membuatmu menjadi dirimu sendiri, yang membuatmu bertumbuh menjadi versi terbaik dirimu, yang mendukungmu untuk terus berkembang.

Oprah juga menceritakan betapa ia yang tadinya hanya memiliki circle pertemanan yang kecil menyadari bahwa berteman, bertetangga, bersosialisasi adalah hal yang menyenangkan, yet, insightful.

I know for sure: If you make time for a little gratitude every day, you'll be amazed by the results.

Being grateful all the time isn't easy. But it's when you feel least thankful that you are most in need of what gratitude can give you: perspective. Gratitude can transform any situation. It alters your vibration, moving you from negative energy to positive. It's the quickest, easiest, most powerful way to effect change in your life - this I know for sure.

Here's the gift of gratitude: In order to feel it, your ego has to take a backseat/ What shows up in its place is greater compassion and understanding. Instead of being frustrated, you choose appreciation. And the more grateful you become, the more you have to be grateful for.

Whatever you're going through, you will do just that: go through it. It will pass. So say thank-you now. Because you know the rainbow is coming.

Entah aku sudah menyebutkan berapa kali. Tapi gratitude adalah konsep yang berkali-kali diulang Oprah dalam buku ini. Bersyukur setiap saat mungkin sulit, kadang kita ingin marah, mengeluh, dan mengerutu dengan hal buruk yang diberikan hidup pada kita. Rasa syukur mungkin tidak menyelesaikan masalah. Akan tetapi, rasa syukur membuat kita menjadi lebih tenang, kemudian memberikan perspektif lain. Pada akhirnya masalah pun menjadi tidak terlalu buruk lagi, setelah dilihat dari sudut pandang berbeda.

Akan selalu ada pelangi seusai hujan. Badai pasti berlalu. Tanggung jawab tak pernah salah memilih pundak. Yes?

What I know for sure: There is no need to struggle with your body when you can make a loving and grateful peace with it.

I don't have to consume the whole thin just because it's the.What a concept!

When you focus in the goodness in your life, you create more of it.

This I know for sure: The pure joy of eating well is worth savoring

When you nurture and support your body, it reciprocates. The basis of that support is exercise, like it or not. The most essential benefit is more energy; wight control is a bonus. I know for sure that taking care of your body, no matter what is an investment, and the return is priceless.

Self-love. Body image. Diet. Oprah cukup lama bergumul dengan masalah berat badan. Masalah yang dihadapi hampir semua orang, terutama perempuan. Setelah mencoba berbagai macam diet, Oprah akhirnya menyadari sebuat cara berpikir yang membuatnya lebih mampu mengontrol food intake-nya. Ketika semua tersedia, bukan berarti kau harus memakan semuanya. Ambil dan nikmatilah untuk memenuhi rasa inginmu, lalu katakan pada dirimu sendiri, "Cukup."

Makan dengan lahap, dengan hidangan yang lezat adalah satu lagi anugerah yang tak semua orang bisa nikmati. Maka syukuri, jangan menyiksa dirimu dengan mengkhianati anugerah ini demi tubuh ideal yang kata orang itu.

Pada akhirnya, ketika kamu menjaga tubuhmu, dengan makan makanan yang sehat, berolahraga, kau telah berinvestasi dengan nilai yang tak terhitung.

We've all heard that it's more blessed to give than to receive. Well, I know for sure that it's also a lot more fun..

I gave to someone else, in the same way that someone had given to me. And I know for sure that's we're here to do: Keep the giving going.

I know for sure that only by owning who and what you are can you step into the fullness of life. I feel sorry for anyone who buys into myth that you can be what you once were. The way to your best life isn't denial. It's owning every moment and staking a claim to the here and now.

Nikmatnya berbagi, memberi. Tangan di atas lebih baik daripada tangan di bawah. Ada sebentuk kepuasan, kebahagiaan dalam berbagi. Maka ulangi, dan rasakan sensasi itu berkali-kali. Pada akhirnya energi baik itu akan menular.

What I know for sure is this: Whatever you fear most has no power - it is your fear that has the power. The thing itself cannot touch you. But your fear can rob you of your life. Each time you give in to it, you lose strength, while your fear gains it. That's why you must decide that no matter how difficult the path ahead seems, you will past your anxiety and keep on stepping.

The true measure of your courage is not whether you reach your goal - it's whether you decide to get back on your feet no matter how many times you've failed. I know it's not easy, but I also know for sure that having the courage to stand up and pursue your wildest dreams will give you life's richest reward and life's greatest adventure.

What I know for sure is this: You are built not to shrink down to less but to blossom into more. To be more splendid. To be more extraordinary. To use every moment to fill yourself up.

What I know for sure is that whatever your situation is right now, you have played a major role in creating it. With every experience, you build your life, thought by thought, choice by choice. And beneath each of those thoughts and choices lies your deepest intention.

Buku Anxiety and Worry yang aku share beberapa waktu lalu, dipraktikkan Oprah dengan sangat baik. Setiap orang memiliki rasa takut, fobia, trauma. Dan...obat terampuh, termanjur untuk rasa takut dan cemas adalah...melawannya.

I recognized then what I know now for sure: If you can get paid for doing what you love, every paycheck is a bonus. Give yourself the bonus of a lifetime: Pursue your passion. Discover what you love. Then do it!

What I know for sure is this: The most important adventure of our live doesn't have to involve climbing the highest peak or trekking around the world. The biggest thrill you can ever achieve is to love the life of your dreams.

If life teaches you nothing else, know this: When you get the chance, go for it.

What is the truth of your life? It's your duty to know. In order to find out, know that truth is that which feels right and good and loving.

Makin ke sini, uraianku makin pendek ya? Ya abis gimana, tanpa perlu diuraikan pun, kata-kata Oprah di buku udah sangat indah. Seperti kalimat ini misalnya yang membicarakan tentang passion, pekerjaan. Kerjakan hal yang kamu disukai, sukai hal yang kamu kerjakan. Right?

Everything you do and say shows the world who you are. Let it be the truth.

The whole point of being alive is to become the person you were intended to be, to grow out of and into yourself again and again.

What I know for sure: Having the best things is no substitute for having the best life.

What I know for sure us that you spend your time defines who you are. And I want to shine my light for good.

Enough already with the stuff that doesn't enhance who we really are. That's the real deal of decluttering, a process that's ever evolving as you move closer to the self you were meant to be.

Espresi kita menjelaskan diri kita. Kata-kita kita menceritakan siapa kita. Yup, diri kita adalah buku terbuka yang dapat dibaca oleh orang lain, bahkan dapat ditulis oleh orang lain. Pilihannya adalah apakah kita yang akan menuliskan 'buku' kita sendiri atau mereka? Pilihannya adalah menuliskan diri kita yang apa adanya dan menjadi diri sendiri atau menulis cerita fiksi penuh diksi? So, yeah, be real.

Your instincts are your compass.

Insting adalah senjata bawaan yang diberikan Tuhan pada setiap manusia. Maka gunakan. Dengarkan inner voice dalam dirimu alih-alih mendengarkan gemerisik orang-orang di sekitarmu. Apa yang diyakini dirimu adalah petunjukmu.

For me, doubt often means don't. Don't move. Don't answer. Don't rush forward. When I'm mired in uncertainty about what the next step should be, when I'm asked to do something for which I feel little enthusiasm, that's my sign to just stop - to get still until my instincts give me the go-ahead. I believe that uncertainty is my spirit's way of whispering. I'm in flux. I can't decide for you. Something is off balance here. I take that as a cue to re-center myself before making a decision. When the universe compels me toward the best path to take, it never leaves me with "Maybe", "Should I?" or even "Perhaps." I always know for sure when it's telling me to proceed - because everything inside me rises up to reverberate "Yes!"

When you don't know what to do, my best advice is to do nothing until clarity comes. Getting still, being able to hear your own voice and not the voices of the world, quickens clarity. Once you decide what you want, make a commitment to that decisions.

Berkaitan dengan kalimat sebelumnya tentang instring. Maka, keraguan adalah alarm alam. Dengarkan, dan lakukan langkah penyelamatan.

Understand that the right to choose your own path is a sacred privilege. Use it. Dwell in possibility.

Oprah bahkan menuliskan tentang seruan untuk menggunakan hak memilih dalam Pemilu. Dengan lagi-lagi mensyukuri kesempatan yang tidak dimiliki oleh para pahlawan kita, oleh mereka yang mendahului kita, untuk memilih pemimpin mereka.

When someone spreads lies about you, it's not about you. Ever. Gossip - whether in the form of rumor that's sweeping the nation or gripe session between friends - reflects the insecurity of those who initiate it. Often when we make negative statements about others behind their backs, it's because we want to feel powerful - and that's usually because in some way we feel powerless, unworthy, not courageous enough to be forthright.

Gossip is an assassination attempt by a coward.

And we'd remember that while words have the power to destroy, they also have power to heal.

If you want to be successful, be excellent. If you want the best the world has to offer, offer the world your best.

Biarlah anjing menggonggongl, kafilah berlalu. Kalau dalam psikologi, ada bahasan yang menjelaskan bahwa pada dasarnya, ketika seseorang berteriak, misuh-misuh, membicarakan sesuatu, ia sedang mengekspresikan hal di dalam dirinya. Proyektif istilah. So, no need to bother. Relax...

What I know for sure: When you define yourself by the things you can acquire rather than see what you really need to be happy and fulfilled, you're not just living beyond your means or overextending yourself. You're living a lie.

I hope the way you spend your money is in line with the truth of who you are and what you care about. I hope that your money brings joy to you and the ones you love. And I hope you use it as a powerful force for good to fulfill your best intentions.

Oprah bahkan membahas personal finance! Wkwk...salah satu prinsipnya dalam mengelola keuangan adalah menghindari utang. Membeli sesuai kemampuan. Karena utang hanya bukti yang menunjukkan bagaimana kita belum mensyukuri hal yang kita miliki, dan bagaimana kita belum mampu mengontrol ego kita.

The ultimate in being healthy is to operate at full throttle - physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It/s being alert, feeling alive and connected. And if you look at your life as a circle and all its aspects (family, finance, relationships, work, among others) as sections of it, you'll see that if one part is malfunction, it will affect the whole.

This I know for sure is what matters. For me, it;s the only goal worth aiming for: a transformation of consciousness that allows me to know that I am no better or worse than any other being. That I simply am.

This is why, when people say they're looking for happiness, I ask, "What are you giving to the world?"

Buku ini menawarkan banyak sekali pembelajaran. So, yes, this is s great recommendation. A must read book. Happy reading.

Book details:

Author: Oprah Winfrey
Year: 2014
Publisher: Flatiron Books